Well, I’m going to say the s-word: SEX! That’s right, I said it! Sex can be such a temptation. What is God’s purpose for sex? Sex is everywhere all the time. It drives our society. Sigmund Freud’s theorized that sex was a common, basic motivator in the life of every human being. And it is true, the sexual desires of humanity drive human behavior and social interaction. It can lead us to wonderful places and it can destroy lives. The key is to understand God’s purpose in sex.
First, we have to remember that God created us as sexual beings. The first command was to go and multiply. God is love and out of this nature, He has created a system of procreation that will give Him more souls to love and cherish. But God could have set up this system of procreation any way that He wanted. So when we approach sex, we can’t simply say it is the way God allows us to have babies. There is much more to it, wouldn’t you say?
Sex can be just physical. Like Olivia Newton-John used to sing, “Let’s get physical.” But if the scope of God’s purpose in sex was limited to physical pleasure, He wouldn’t have put limits on those with whom we have sex. The Bible is very clear that sex is to be between a husband and wife only.
But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:2-5 (NIV)
If God’s purpose for sex was physical pleasure and having babies, then it would not matter to God who we have sex with. By placing sex strictly between husband and wife, we see God’s purpose goes beyond babies and pleasure.
When God gives us something in the physical realm, He will always use it to teach us about the spiritual realm. God established marriage between a man and woman, but St. Paul teaches that this human relationship is really to help us understand our relationship with God who refers to Himself as the Bridegroom and we are the Bride. When we live out our marriage according to Biblical principles, we actually learn to a greater depth the love of God and we love Him at a greater depth as well.
But then we have another spiritual principle: Worship. The Bible says not to get drunk on wine but filled with the Spirit (Ephesians 5:18). Worship is how we lose ourselves in Christ. He enthrones Himself on our praises (Psalm 22:3). As we lift up ourselves to Him with a sacrifice of praise, He inhabits that praise. Whether we are worshiping with hands raised jamming out to a praise band or reverently embracing the beauty of the eucharist, we are to lose our self emotionally and spiritually in God. Our spirit goes to Him and the Holy Spirit inhabits us.
Worship is an intimate act of the church losing herself, giving herself freely, as her Husband enthrones and inhabits her in that moment. Sex between husband and wife is to teach us about worship and worship teaches us about sex.
Sex is intended to produce intimacy between a husband and wife, an emotional, intellectual, passionate bond between them. This can only happen when each party has committed to love the other no matter what. Intimacy requires trust. A spouse must trust their partner to not betray them, abandon them, or hurt them purposely. Sex without trust is diminished to nothing more than a physical act of fleshly pleasure. Sex with trust builds upon the emotional bond that comes from trust. This is why God limits sex to a man and woman who have given themselves to one another in marriage promising to love the other, never leaving them til death do they part. This commitment lived out produces trust. Trust carried into sex builds intimacy and passion.
In the same way that spiritual worship bonds us to Christ, so sex in marriage is God’s instrument to bond a man and his wife to one another with deep intimacy and passion. If your sex life within marriage is not producing intimacy, a couple should consider counseling to help identify where trust has been lost that is stealing intimacy. Intimacy and passion is God’s purpose for sex. Pleasure and babies are just bonus. In your marriage bed, strive for deep intimacy and don’t settle for anything less.
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